Ask the Expert: How did you come up with "ScreamFree Parenting"?
Ever wonder how it all started?
I have read tons of parenting books in my time, but
yours is so different. Why is no one else saying these things that make
so much sense? Also, I love the title! How did you come up with that?
I did not even begin to develop the ScreamFree approach until I
was in training to become a therapist, and by then I already had both
of my kids. I sometimes shudder to think about what my parenting would
have been like without the benefit of my training. In graduate school,
I had access to an incredible amount of existing knowledge and
scientific research as to how relationships and family systems really
work. This research was incredibly well-documented and thoroughly
insightful, but unfortunately, most of it was couched in academic
language and available only to the most educated of therapists.
So, I searched for ways to capture these theoretical concepts
and effective principles I had learned and tried to put them into the
working language of real families. My educational background along with
my experience as a therapist and a father led me to believe that that
growth can only occur when we can calm our emotional reactivity. But,
“Emotional Reactivity-Free Parenting” didn’t have much of a ring to it.
So, “ScreamFree Parenting” was born.
The more I worked with families, the more I found that the vast
majority of us are operating in the dark. Kids don’t come with
instruction manuals, and many times, while we want to do what’s best
for them, we get paralyzed by the anxiety that accompanies these little
creatures. And that’s a thought that compels me to share this
ScreamFree vision with every parent on the planet. Our children deserve